Maintaining realism is important to a game. But when it comes to a steamy scene, how much realism is too much?

That all depends.

In most cases, a steamy scene or a touching moment between characters is fine. A kiss happens, and it’s a normal act in life. Writing out scenes that include embraces is natural at times, and it does happen that characters become a couple in game. Most players have no issues reading a romantic or slightly steamy scene.

Some writers take steamy scenes a step further. They choose to write out couplings, making love and sexual acts – and that’s fine. Erotic literature is acceptable and has its place.

But descriptive, graphic scenes involving sex don’t always create comfort with all players.

If both players do choose to “go blue”, then more power to them. It’s perfectly fine to include erotica in your writing, as long as it’s kept behind closed doors. Exchange posts and scenes via email or private messaging.

The decision to “go blue” (or write out a sex scene) is personal and should include the consent of both parties involved. If one player feels uncomfortable or shows no interest, skip it. Don’t push the matter.

Keep in mind that any scenes played in private aren’t moderated and that game moderators or masters can’t or won’t intervene. If a player becomes uncomfortable, wants to stop but feels forced or is pressured to continue writing erotica, then that player is on his or her own to handle the matter.

Also note that lack of consent in collaborative erotica may become an issue of law in the area of sexual harassment. Other laws may apply, so when in doubt, consult with a lawyer.